Men are from Mars: Man Logic

This offering today was inspired by a funny but serious Facebook post made by a beloved online friend of mine. I’ve always admired her as she has quite a way with words, satire, and sarcasm, after all she is a comedienne! Her wit is so sharp it can cut deep at times. We have neverContinue reading “Men are from Mars: Man Logic”

10 Things a Single Mother Should Know

The journey will be tough, but it will be worth it. It has always boggled my mind how easily people can become parents. We need approval and are regulated for virtually every other aspect of our lives, yet bringing a child into this world requires no screening, schooling, certification, testing, or regulation. Even when weContinue reading “10 Things a Single Mother Should Know”

The Death of a Deadbeat Father

For entirety of my childhood I didn’t know my father; not his name, not what he looked like, not his love. I found out his name when I was writing my secondary school entrance exam (back then it was called (Common Entrance). For the most part my father was dead to me in some type of way simply because I didn’t know anything about him as a child.

The Patriarchy

I’ve always been confident and secure of myself and out of life wanted someone to spend my days with, growing together, working and building together to raise a family and fulfill our family’s needs.
I think, this is, by most, almost a universal standard for marriage.

The things we give up as single mothers

Over the years I have considered many things in terms of where and who I wanted to be in my life but there were many obstacles that stood in the way of that. In retrospect, I am not sure that I would make the same decisions relative to the things that I gave up if given a choice because I am so much wiser.

What’s It Going To Take?

The fact of the matter is that many men believe that if they have ended the relationship with the mother the relationship (especially the financial relationship) with the child ends for some reason. Many believe that the financial responsibility is severed and does not provide same for the children he once cared for. I fail to see the logic in such thinking but I digress.

Dating and the single mom

Most single mothers’ lives revolve around three things: her job, her home and her children. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day to accommodate someone else especially if she has more than one child and little to no support. Remember most single mothers don’t have the luxury of having someone else assist so these activities listed are usually undertaken solely by her.

To single moms on Mother’s day Pt 1

May 12, 2019. By Ralna Albertie So, today is Mother’s day. A happy and joyous occasion. A day when the whole world recognizes and celebrates the contributions and sacrifices that mothers make for their children and for their families on an everyday basis. A day for flowers, cards, breakfast in bed, gifts, chocolate, a spaContinue reading “To single moms on Mother’s day Pt 1”

​Stay at Home Single Mom (SAHSM)

Getting up early isn’t a privilege. Even if you are at home, you still get up earlier than the children. Just to get your mind and coffee in gear. (For those who consume coffee, for those who don’t there is tea, hot chocolate, or my favourite wine).

How to respond to the choice of absence Pt 2.

When things seem to normalize sometime later because you’ve grown accustomed to the separation you think that you will be open to co-parent because (for me) the child was the only important thing.

How to respond to the choice of absence Pt 1

These are the seven things that I have identified as being the key emotions that I think need to be assessed whenever we face being a single mother or are thinking about taking that step.