Pregnancy is going to alter your thinking forever; it’s going to make you realize how fragile and important life is and why it must be protected at all cost. – Anonymous.
Pregnancy should be a beautiful experience. At least, that’s what the movies portray. However, the sobering reality for some women is that pregnancy can be nothing short of challenging—and that’s putting it mildly. A pregnant woman has great responsibility, in that, she is not only caring for herself but also, for the life growing inside of her. Couple that with also caring for a partner during a time when emotions are unpredictable. That’s quite a lot, wouldn’t you agree? And let me be objective by stating that, pregnancy may also be a challenging time for male partners who also have to figure out ways of managing the experience and all that comes with it—especially if they haven’t experienced it before. So all in all, it can be a scary experience for some, which is why support is required, before, during and after such a sensitive journey.
Naturally, expectant mothers would turn to their partners and family members for support. Having a partner by your side through such a miraculous journey is ideal; but what if he leaves? What if your partner decides to walk away during your pregnancy? Have you ever thought about that before? You have to consider that pregnancy and the events surrounding it may have different effects on you and your partner. Some persons aren’t mentally or emotionally equipped to handle that. However, as a pregnant woman, you have to consider every possible outcome to ensure the health of you and your baby—and that means with or without your partner by your side. Here are five things you should do if he leaves:
- Indulge in Self-Care: Your baby’s health is of utmost importance; however, if you’re not healthy, unfortunately, your baby may not be healthy as well. It’s like when you’re travelling on a plane with a child: if there is an emergency and the oxygen masks drop from above, you have to put your mask on before you assist the child with theirs. This may seem crazy, maybe even selfish to some, but there is a reason for this. If you run out of oxygen while trying to assist the child with their mask, it’s highly likely that you and the child could become unconscious during this process. Therefore, you should engage in some self-care activities that would boost your mood, such as exercising or pampering yourself for a day or two…or three.
- Keep up with Medical Appointments: Dealing with abandonment or a break-up is difficult, especially during such a sensitive time. Some days you may not feel like doing anything at all; however, it is crucial that you and your baby receive the prenatal care required to ensure a healthy pregnancy, and the postnatal care, which is the medical support you and your baby need after birth.
- Go to Counselling: You’ll need to vent. It is essential that you express your emotions instead of keeping them bottled up inside. Your physical health is important for you and your baby; however, you also have to take care of your mental health. Your feelings are real, and they are just as important as the baby’s health, so take care of you too, momma. Click here to find more information about free counselling services within Trinidad & Tobago.
- Set Some Goals: So he left. This is your reality now. You are a single mom, so your main goal, at present, should be to be the best single mother there ever was! As hard as that may be, you’re strong and up for the task. So, ask yourself some questions. What are your plans? Are you going to raise this baby on your own? What would that mean in terms of the financial requirements to do so? What are the avenues you can explore to gain the resources needed to ensure that your baby is brought up in a healthy environment? These are just some of the things you will now have to consider.
- Find Support: If you do not have the support from your partner or even family members, you can find support elsewhere. You can conduct research to see if there are any pregnancy support groups, specific to your situation or even join an NGO such as the Global Network for the Advancement of Single Mothers, which is committed to assisting single mothers in Trinidad and Tobago.
All things considered, you should enjoy your pregnancy, regardless. All the curves, all the cravings, and all the soon-to-be coos and cuddles!